Talk to Irene

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23 Responses to “Talk to Irene”

  1. Donna Lucas says:

    Good night, Irene! Thank you for writing this book that I started out with yesterday afternoon and finished before bedtime. Life is amazing, and I am so grateful that I started reading this right when I needed it in my world of being a mother to two daughters (ages 13 and 11), daughter to a critical mother, and teacher of 100’s of high school students.

    I wrote an Amazon review about this book which “sat” on my Kindle for a year or two! For whatever reason, I needed to read it yesterday. I’m quite impressed with your skills of teaching and analyzing. The pains suffered in your story are more universal than individual, so I believe many can benefit from your wisdom.

    I am starting a work of fiction based on a critical mother and gentle father — this is how I grew up. I wrote a memoir of my humble father, but in it, I left out the entire volatile fights my parents had and how much she dominated the house with her episodes of rage. My father has been deceased for 9 years and my mother is now 81. She is a friend to many but really has high expectations for her family members and practices alienation like a musician does the piano.

    Although I thought I had resolved my inner child conflicts, I realize now I have not. I am going to work through myself more and I can thank you for the skills and wisdom you have offered.

    God Bless you, Irene.

  2. Angela says:

    Just finished your book not like my mother boy can I relate and doing what you described when your daughters where teenagers my daughter is 16 yrs old and I basically let her do whatever whenever as I have just recently hit rock bottom due to drug abuse and am trying to recover with therapist and counselor and recovery group .. But I feel it’s not enough . I was sexually molested as a child by my step father .. I think I could right a book myself but so many times the words don’t come out right when I try to write or even talk them I constantly feel
    Stupid but thanks for the book and hope to hear from you soon

  3. Mary L. says:

    Hi Irene
    I want to thank you so much for your book……Not like my mother…..I didn’t realize how much it would mean to me as I read it. It opened my eyes to not only a couple of my hurts but also the hurts that our adult daughters had to endure. It was so timely and I want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH. I also watched all your videos…..they so so MUCH in so few words! THANKS
    God bless you.. ML

    • itomkinson says:

      You are so very welcome. What a gift the night before thanksgiving to know that Not Like My Mother made a difference for you.
      That is the best gift a writer can receive . Whatever hurts you may have caused your children…the best amends is to be the kind of parent
      you are…one who is willing to learn and grow. Our children come as some of our greatest teachers. I encourage you to talk to them about what you
      have learned. I have more videos that will be coming out soon. I will keep your email and send them to you as they are released.
      Blessings Irene

  4. Nicole Allen says:

    Hello, I wanted to let you know that this book is amazingly wonderful. I am a new parent and I actually read it to make sense of my own crazy life. It is very helpful, in the sense in makes you realize that every child is different and will in turn need different things in life. My brother and I were raised by a single mother, who left my abusive alcoholic father, only to meet another alcoholic who also used crack cocaine (my step father.) I have been faced with many of the same problems my mother had and always wondered why, and your book help me put perspective on that very issue. I just wanted to say thank you and I’m looking forward to reading and following much more of your work.

  5. Diane says:

    Dear Irene,

    Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful book! As you said, teachers arrive when you need them and I have definitely learned from your words, that touched me deeply. I recognized so much! Being a mom of two small girls of 3 and 5 and wanting to parent them so NOT like my mother is a constant challenge, because I often find myself living in the past. What I would like to do is run to one of your workshops, but it would be a long & costly journey all the way from France! Please let me know if ever you start online coaching (the videos are great, please make more of them!) or if ever you organize workshops in Europe.

    Wishing you all the best and much happiness and fulfillment, take care,

    • itomkinson says:

      What a wonderful treat to receive your email…and so timely. I just finished making 5 new videos today. They have to be edited and will be up over the next couple of weeks.
      I am not booked in France right now…but let me tell you that would be magical to do a workshop there. Let’s you and I hold it as a vision. If you can find enough people to come and cover my
      airfare I would be there in a heartbeat. Where in France are you? I have been to Paris and Nice…but that is my total travels in France. I am also available on-line and over the phone. I do sessions
      by Skype. So let me know if you are interested. Please know that just beginning to identify your history is putting you well on your way to healing. How blessed are your little girls to have a mom
      who is willing to do her work. And isn’t the Universe wise to send us the right and perfect children to teach us what is ours to learn. Blessings and stay in touch. Irene

  6. Kay Harris says:

    Wow thank you so much your book is wonderful. I will read it again and this time answer the questions at the end. I am so excited about this book I have already recommended it to two people who are dear to me and I want everyone to read it. Again thank you for your story.

  7. Karen says:

    Wow! Just knowing that I am not the only person who came from a crazy family is such a relief. Not only is it traumatic, but the isolation from, and pity that is seen on the faces of those who grew up in somewhat “normal” families is also devastating. I do not keep the family “secrets” and am open about my family of origin, but it sometimes makes other people very uncomfortable. I am finding that alot of the feelings I thought I had released are coming up again. I’m still reading your book, but you have my most sincere thanks! Not only great advice and reading material, but free! You are truly a generous and caring person! Thank you so much for sharing.

    • itomkinson says:

      Thank you for taking the time to respond to my book. I am grateful that you got something out of it.
      Hopefully, by the end of the summer I will have a new book finished (if I stop worrying about how dirty my kitchen floor is) and maybe you will get something from that book also. Until we connect again.
      Blessings and be well,

  8. Irene, I am delighted you are doing this, so that others can experience your work. It’s been life-changing for me because I got to work with you personally – in the workshops, privately, and over the phone. I would recommend your work to anyone, and in fact I have.

    To anyone reading: This woman knows her stuff. To work with her individually is a great gift you owe yourself.

    Thank you, Irene, for helping me open my world.

  9. Bruno says:

    I have to show my thanks to you for rcesuing me from such a dilemma. As a result of checking through the world-wide-web and getting notions which were not helpful, I assumed my life was gone. Existing minus the answers to the difficulties you have solved by means of the short post is a critical case, as well as the ones which could have badly affected my career if I hadn’t come across your blog post. Your actual mastery and kindness in touching almost everything was very useful. I’m not sure what I would have done if I hadn’t encountered such a point like this. I can at this point look forward to my future. Thanks for your time so much for this reliable and amazing guide. I will not think twice to refer your web site to anybody who requires care about this area.

  10. Carolina Rodriguez says:

    Dear Irene:
    I just finished reading the book and I wanted to say thank you. I was really hoping you had a place for me to reach you because i really wanted to say thanks.
    I have already outlined my own book and hope to share with you soon.
    Thanks for the inspiration and the belief that healing is possible.
    God ( or your Higher Power) bless you and keep you.
    Carolina from Colombia
    South America

    • itomkinson says:

      So sweet to have you reply with such a wonderful email. What a surprise to know that someone as far away as Colombia is reading my book. I love what is possible with the internet. I will be posting many more videos. I hope they are a help to you.
      Blessings Irene

  11. Sarah says:

    Perfect for me today.One of my sons was hospitalized on Monday.I have fear around my past experience with his illness.Staying in the present and grounding myself in “the now” is a constant excercise!

    • itomkinson says:

      I am holding you and your son in light and love. Just keep breathing as deeply as you can.
      It is so difficult to be powerless over our children. I have to believe that there is a Higher Power working for all of us for wholeness and wellness. Blessings Irene

  12. Irene, this is just lovely. Perfect!! What an inspiration you are to me & so so many people. Your work is a true gift in this world.
    Blessings, Rosemary

  13. Paula says:

    Hi Irene,

    So nice to receive this from you! It’s been a while since I listened to one of your videos.i know it will be helpful! Home with back & leg pain & headaches. Blah. I have a question…Why do I still feel out of touch/like I’ve lost grip with job, etc.? Age?Stress? Or ?? I hope u r well! Miss u. Love, Paula

  14. Holly Gleason says:

    Hi Irene –
    I have days where I simply feel “off”, sort of melancholy, but with a bit of agitation, and I don’t know how to bring up what I am really feeling or the cause of this feeling “off”. Any ideas of how I can identify the feelings? thank you kindly, holly

  15. Jackie says:

    Irene, you’ve been a huge part in all the beautiful things that are in my life today. Thanks for helping me get here. So thrilled to be able to continue to connect with you on your site when I’m too busy to be there in person.

  16. Gail says:

    Hi Irene – love the video blogs. Looking forward to seeing more. Would love to participate in any new workshops you might have also!

  17. hfrink says:

    Irene- Thanks for sharing these videos! What a great way to communicate. I love listening to your experiences and how you navigated through all of life’s relationships. Looking forward to seeing more videos here!

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